Let's Talk About Sex

Mood:  sexy


Yeah...you read that right.  (And daddy you CAN keep reading...I promise).

Today I had a meeting with other Christian educators in the area.  There were 5 of us.  3 are married...2 of us are single.  3 have a seminary degree...I have 2/3...and one had no formal education.  2 have kids....3 of us don't.  That's an incredibly cursory glance at who we are.


As the conversations progressed, sex and the church came up.  One of the educators is in the midst of a two month conversation with middle/high school students on sexuality.  The idea is to promote a healthy awareness of sex...it's dangers, implications, ways to express it...all from both an emotional and physical viewpoint.  She had said she wanted to discuss pornography with the kids, but decided she didn't want a lawsuit.  We all laughed but then had a discussion on the subject of what is and isn't safe to talk about in a church.  With children...and adults.


Here's why I'm sharing this on my blog...it's my nice thing for today.  Not that I talked about sex...but that I'm doing part of what I think the church needs to do.  I'm talking about it.  


See, as a 26 year old single woman who happens to be employed by a church there are several stereotypes.  The only one I am going to discuss (at least in this post) is the one that employees of the church fall into one of two categories:  prude or sexual deviant.  How did that even start?  (I'm looking at you naughty priests....).  I joke but in all seriousness, why can't we just be normal people with a healthy attitude about sex and sexuality?  Why must we be one or the other?  And I get this from every single potential date (or on the first date) that I talk to.  There's always the "oh you work in the church" discussion.  And there's always me trying to prove that I can be a sexual creature despite my job.  Which gets old and annoying and isn't me, because there is more to me than a sexual being.


Anyway...point is.  One of the educators jumped down her throat for suggesting mentioning pornography to the kids.  I applauded her.  If we don't talk about sex and all the aspects of human sexuality...including the dirty, messy ones (hahaha...messy.....) then the stereotypes and negativity continue.  The more you educate the less there is to be afraid of.  The less there is to hide.  And I'm not saying sit down and watch a Ron Jeremy special with your high school youth group...but at least acknowledge that it exists.  And that it's not inherently evil in nature.  


They say knowledge is power.  And the church is trying...or I keep hearing anyway...to embrace that.  But until we acknowledge who we are...we can't tell our kids who we want them to be.  Or who they can be.  Or who they can't be.


It takes an honest person to acknowledge his/her sexuality in a church.  And I don't intend on going to my next youth group meeting and swapping tips or advice...but I'm not going to ignore the subject either.  Though...I am in a precarious position as a SINGLE woman...but that's for another day.


I hear that Jesus came to our world to understand and partake in our every human experience.  I think it was...maybe the Bible that told me this?  So even if you believe Jesus was completely chaste and pure...you have to admit the man at least had urges...he did, after all, experience the human life.  I mean...ultimately it wasn't for him so...


No seriously.  That was probably blasphemous.  But...in a very sacred and special way I urge you to be honest with yourself about who you are.  Sexually and otherwise. And let people get to know THAT person...not what role you think you SHOULD play.  Let that be your nice thing.  I promise it will yield true happiness.

Also as a nice thing...seriously watch this video...I mean when was the last time you heard this song?  Oh the early 90s.....enjoy!